Top Signs of a Cheating Partner
The following are red flags that we have collected from our clients and other various sources to help you determine whether you need to seek the professional help of a licensed private investigator regarding a cheating partner.
Never confront a suspected cheater. This will only cause them to be more careful and make them more difficult to catch. It is imperative that neither you nor your family, friends or co-workers try to obtain answers on your own. You could be charged with stalking and/or jeoparidize your entire case. Leave the investigating up to the professionals.
It is important to remember that although these may be obvious signs of a cheating partner, there are also factors in our everyday life that could lead to some of these same red flags, such as drug use, gambling problems, work overload, heavy stress, etc. The following is to be used as a starting point only. Then it is up to you to hire a professional to find out what is really going on.
| Finding a Post Office Box in partner's name | Mood swings |
| Your partner begins acting more attentive to you. (This is usually in the beginning phases of the outside relationship. This is due to the guilt that your partner is feeling. For example, s/he may bring you flowers, presents, etc, for no apparent reason.) | Your partner's co-workers/friends of the opposite sex suddenly begin calling and asking your partner for help, rides, or just to chat |
| Increased/decreased sex drive | Numerous hang-ups /wrong numbers when you answer the phone |
| Excessive amount of time spent on internet chat rooms | Sudden joining of a health club/spa |
| Frequent trips to the store/mall just to get out of the house | New hair style/clothing style - your partner becomes more attentive to him/herself |
| Wearing sexy lingerie/underwear | Partner smells of cologne/perfume/smoke when s/he gets home |
| Finding a bank account in partner's name | Unexplained credit card charges |
| You find jewelry or floral bills and you weren't the recipient of either one | Hair strands of a different style/color found on clothing, vehicle fabric |
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| Check the passenger seat position of your partner's vehicle before s/he leaves....then compare it to when s/he returns | Unusually high mileage on partner's vehicle which is inconsistent with partner's driving pattern |
| Working late/odd hours for partner's job type | Working/Going out of town without you (maintain log) |
| Staying out all night (maintain log) | Secretions in his/her underwear |
| If your partner carries a pager, unexplained pages and code numbers such as 6969 or 8-00 (could signify a time), etc. (keep track) | Strange/unusual sexual requests out of the ordinary (i.e. anal sex, bondage, S&M, etc) |
| Finding money hidden by your partner | Unexplained change in your overall relationship |
| Finding birth control in your partners wallet/purse/vehicle,etc... | You find receipts in his/her wallet for movies, dinner, play, etc |
| S/he highly emotional, crying often | S/he constantly being in the DEFENSE mode |
| Increased ATM withdrawals (keep track of accounts) | Sudden interest in pornography, strip clubs, prostitutes |
| Unwillingness to be seen in public or certain places with you. | Lipstick on clothing |
| Your partner purchases prepaid calling cards/cell phone cards | |